We have all heard the expression: “marriages are made in heaven.” Well so is lightening, so we’d better look at some deeper thoughts on the matter. In one Biblical source I was reading, it said, so important is marriage that one may sell a Torah scroll for the purpose of being able to obtain a marriage. The only other reason you could sell a Torah scroll, was to fund your deeper studies of the Torah. Although in this commentary, it does say whoever marries a woman for her money will have disreputable children. The absence of love in the parents will react upon the character of the offspring. Actually they married at very young ages back in the first century. A girl was considered “marrying age” when she was 12 and a half. Although it does say to take due caution in choosing a wife according to the Talmud.

The idea of marriage according to the Talmud is of the highest ideal. The term for marriage is Kiddushim, denoting “sanctification.” It is so called because the husband prohibits his wife to the whole world, like an object dedicated to the sanctuary. In one of the commentaries it is written a man should spend less than his means on food and drink for himself, up to his means on his clothes, and above his means on honoring his wife and kids. This is because they are dependent on him and he is dependent upon YHVH. Husband and wife were to look upon each other as partners for life. Of course there is the old theory of marrying a rich old man with one foot in the grave and the other foot on a banana peelJ. In that case, “for life” would become rather shortened.

So marriage is a very serious matter, you’d better make sure of what you’re getting into. They need to be going in the same direction spiritually as you are. For sure they have to be born again, what has light got to do with darkness? Don’t think you’ll be able to change a person after you’re married to them either. You need to understand you’ll be getting that person as they are for life. They’ll always be ups and downs and good times and bad, that’s true of any marriage. Always be quick to forgive and quick to forget. Last but not least, be able to laugh together, pray together, and work together for the glory of YHVH.